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What I Know About Suicide

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By Jay Hastings (Jan 30, 2007)
Many people have known someone who, despairing of hope, has committed suicide.

For them, a thousand questions and regrets arise when such a tragedy occurs. How could they have done it? I should have done more for them.

Most importantly, they may wonder if the person is in heaven or hell?

I have this to say about that: We should never judge a soul in any circumstance, even someone who commits suicide. That is for God alone to judge. And we can trust that He gives a soul every opportunity to choose Him.

Saint Faustina knew firsthand the torments of suicide. She writes in her Diary:

Once, I took upon myself a terrible temptation which one of our students in the house at Warsaw was going through. It was the temptation of suicide. For seven days I suffered; and after the seven days Jesus granted her the grace which was being asked, and then my suffering also ceased. It was a great suffering. I often take upon myself the torments of our students. Jesus permits me to do this, and so do my confessors (192).

Personally, I know of a man who committed suicide. He was a role model and mentor to many. He was a loving father, grandfather, and family man. He had been through several major operations in the course of a few months. He was on painkillers and anti-depressants, as a result of all the surgeries he had to endure. Something obviously went terribly wrong. I don't know what. What a loss.

What I do know is that our Divine Mercy prayer group was praying the Chaplet of The Divine Mercy for him at the hour he died. (Our group insures the Chaplet of The Divine Mercy is being prayed 24 hours a day. Because of the surgeries he was undergoing, this man who committed suicide happened to be listed in our Divine Mercy Prayer Journal, which contains the names of the people for whom we pray.)

And what I also know is that such praying is powerful.

Jesus said to St. Faustina:

Pray as much as you can for the dying. By your entreaties, obtain for them trust in My mercy, because they have most need of trust, and have it the least. Be assured that the grace of eternal salvation for certain souls in their final moment depends on your prayer. You know the whole abyss of My mercy, so draw upon it for yourself and especially for poor sinners. Sooner would heaven and earth turn into nothingness than would My mercy not embrace a trusting soul (Diary, 1777).

Obviously, when someone commits suicide, they leave a lot of confusion about their death. I recall a passage in the Diary when our Lord asked St. Faustina to help Him save a soul that was in despair:

Today, the Lord came to me and said, "My daughter, help Me to save souls. You will go to a dying sinner, and you will continue to recite the chaplet, and in this way you will obtain for him trust in My mercy, for he is already in despair."

Suddenly, I found myself in a strange cottage where an elderly man was dying amidst great torments. All about the bed was a multitude of demons and the family, who were crying. When I began to pray, the spirits of darkness fled, with hissing and threats directed at me. The soul became calm and, filled with trust, rested in the Lord. At the same moment, I found myself again in my own room. How this happens ... I do not know. (1797-98)

And then there are these comments of St. Faustina:

I often communicate with persons who are dying and obtain the divine mercy for them. Oh, how great is the goodness of God, greater than we can understand. There are moments and there are mysteries of the divine mercy over which the heavens are astounded. Let our judgment of souls cease, for God's mercy upon them is extraordinary (Diary, 1684).

I often attend upon the dying and through entreaties obtain for them trust in God's mercy, and I implore God for an abundance of divine grace, which is always victorious. God's mercy sometimes touches the sinner at the last moment in a wondrous and mysterious way. Outwardly, it seems as if everything were lost, but it is not so. The soul, illumined by a ray of God's powerful final grace, turns to God in the last moment with such a power of love that, in an instant, it receives from God forgiveness of sin and punishment, while outwardly it shows no sign either of repentance or of contrition, because souls [at that stage] no longer react to external things. Oh, how beyond comprehension is God's mercy! But - horror - there are also souls who voluntarily and consciously reject and scorn this grace! Although a soul is at the point of death, the merciful God gives the soul that interior vivid moment, so that if the soul is willing, it has the possibility of returning to God. But sometimes, the obduracy in souls is so great that consciously they choose hell; they make useless all the prayers that other souls offer to God for them and even the efforts of God Himself... (1698).

Again, we should never judge a soul in any circumstance. And we should never despair of God's mercy; it is unfathomable. Knowing that should bring comfort and peace to everyone who has to endure this situation.

Jay Hastings, of Bartlett, Tenn., is the founder of a growing group of Divine Mercy devotees who ensures that the Chaplet of The Divine Mercy is being prayed every hour of the day. The 24-Hour Chaplet members now consist of more than 500 people from across the United States, as well as from Mexico, Belize (Central America), Costa Rica, Canada, Philippines, Bolivia, India, Iraq, Australia, Kuwait, United Arab Emirates, Japan, and Tanzania, who are assigned an hour each day in which to pray. They pray for three things: the promotion of the Divine Mercy devotion; the sick and dying in the hour that you pray; and people about to commit mortal sin. To join the 24-Hour Chaplet, contact Jay via e-mail, pj7772@msn.com or via phone, 901-438-7772.

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Robbie Biggs - Feb 7, 2007

My mother was suicidal even before she asked for morphine, which causes depression. I sent her an article on The Divine Mercy....but, please, pray for her and me. God Bless You.

D. Fathe - Aug 22, 2007

My nephew died of a drug overdose (Fentanyl) on Dec. 24, 2005. It was never clear if it was suicide or an accident. I can now take comfort in knowing that if God offered him mercy at his last moment that he would have willingly accepted it. He made a comment several days before he passed away about "needing to get right with God before he died". Thank you so much for this article, I'm finally at peace with this tragedy.

RIP Simon Pacheco 10/3/07 - Oct 4, 2007

Siomon is 12 years old and had committed suicide the other night he was a very good friend with my son. I only want Simon to Rest in Peace and I am asking for your prayers to help him to his destination. Love and Prayers Simon we all love you and will be missing you...Until we meet again you will remain in our hearts forever. All your friends and family

Moderator - Oct 4, 2007

You and your loved ones are all in my prayers. If you would like the Marian Helper prayer team to pray as well, please call the prayer-line at (800) 804-3823.

God bless,

Don - Nov 28, 2007

While listening to the radio yesterday am I heard about the death of the NFL football player lying in a coma. So, I knelt down and prayed The Divne Mercy Chaplet for his soul. Pray always.

deep black - Feb 15, 2010

i have this sickness called depression. after i lost my job in a major medical establishment (where i spent 8 happy months), i am currently working at a dead-end job. it is a dead-end job because i do not even enjoy the benefits of my salary. i try t reach out to my co workers but they think that i am too weird and they feel awkward, they said. i am just looking for someone who could probably reach out to me too. evn in this dead-end job i try to do my best, but there are complaints that i miss " a few litte important things". i am so frustrated because i am trying all my best to do my job well here, but my co-workers and supervisors arent satisfied. i tell my parents my dilemma, but it all boils down to them not understanding because they are not nurses, so they don't understand what i am going through. i am so sick and tired of everything. when i go to church, i can't help noticing the families of other nurses enjoying themselves in church, singing, laughing, meeting up after the Mass has been said. I can't help looking at them with envy. When will i be happy and content just like them? when will th end of my calvary be?
once i looked up on the web "making sense out of suffering" by peter kreeft. he said, that whatever our private hells may be, christ himself descends into those hells to be with us. he may not deliver us from these hells but he is here with us. what's the use? though it is certainly touching that christ is with us in all our adversities, whats the use if he's not gonna do anything to help? what's the use of his being there then?
last night i screamed at him in my mind: until when would you nail me to the cross with you? i don't want to be here! all i ask of you is to help me make my life a little brighter! but you choose to be here amid tears, darkness and sorrow! are you not God, arent you supposed to have helped all those people who are terminally ill during your time? then why not help me? God, what is your point?
though i try so very hard to keep things straight, i keep having suicidal thought. i feel so hopeless. God, for me, has left me alone and i am broken hearted. please help me. if this is the way to sainthood, i'd rather not be a saint.

Moderator - Feb 16, 2010

Dear "deep black,"
You ask, what is the point of Christ being with us in our sufferings? It seems the point is that, no matter how bad it gets, we're not alone. The One who suffered the horror of crucifixion did so out of love for us (as individuals), and He IS with us in our sufferings. Please know that I am praying for you too.

needhelp - Apr 4, 2014

Please pray for me as I'm thinking seriously of committing suicide. My life is too much pain and I've made too many bad choices and there's no way to undo them. I have an incurable disease. I don't want to hurt anyone but I'm just in too much pain and I can't go on like this. Please pray that God accepts me and does not reject me I am sorry and I don't want to commit suicide but I just can't take the pain and regret anymore.

SufferingMystic - May 8, 2014

I have been submerged in a sea of suffering after devoting my life to God. I know I should be thankful and feel blessed to be granted the gift of mystical unions, but the pain is so horrific it is unbearable.

I am to remain devout all the while during God's test, but it is too big a cross to bear. There is no cure for the conditions God gave me, no peace or comfort, no medications, and, worst of all, it won't kill me. I may live with it for another 60 years.

In my mystical unions I am told that this suffering is part of it, that my prayers for mercy cannot be answered, that my extreme faith and devotion to serve God has been granted but in a way I did not expect.

I am afraid that suicide or euthanasia would be met with more suffering in the afterlife. Is there no end to it for me? I need compassion from God to let me die peacefully soon and be free of suffering here or there. How can I be granted this mercy if I resort to euthanasia/suicide? I'm afraid it will not end because mystics are rare cases, and people who did not expect to be silent martyrs or victim souls are rarer still. I implore you to pray for my suffering to end somehow, either by a miracle in this lifetime, by death, by being granted mercy if I must take my life. I pray God forgives me for my inability to take this horrific daily burden, but I am too weak and suicidal all the time.

Please pray for me!

John - Aug 11, 2016

My 17 year old daughter left notes all over our house, last Monday, to say Goodbye to us all.

God blessed us in that he allowed one of her friends find the notes before she had done any harm to herself.

We took her to the hospital and I never, ever in my life saw the pure rage in my beloved child's face. To me it looked like she was possessed.

Since then we have discovered that there is drug/substance abuse involved .

The hospital released her to our care recommending / arranging counselling.

We have tried and she has told us that there is no way that she will attend counselling. I can see that she is very ashamed at what happened and, in any case, hates being the centre of attention. I think that her self-confidence / self-esteem is low.

This is the second attempt that we are aware of but the, in her letters, declares it to be her third attempt.

She is deeply, deeply loved and valued - we would never recover from her loss ( God Forbid ).

Please, please, please pray the chaplet for her to recognize that there is hope and that she begins to enagage with us, counselling etc.

Jesus, I trust in you!