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Every so often someone will ask me, "Does God really exist?" I know the answer is yes, but how does one open the heart of another so they can see and feel the presence of God? How can I better articulate the "God-incidences" that continue to happen in my life that reaffirms this belief?

I must admit, that in the hectic activities of daily life, sometimes the existence of God is not in the forefront of my daily conscious thoughts. But then something happens that makes me realize that our Lord and Our Lady do exist and love my family and I very much, and that they are constantly protecting and watching over me.

I think events happen in our life at different times and places that are intertwined and related, and all we have to do is "connect the dots." Sometimes we have to stand back from the thick of things and reflect on the marvelous events that happen in our lives, and then all the connections and interrelationships make sense.

I want to share with you some events and comments regarding Our Blessed Mother, the Congregation of Marians, my life, and pro-life issues. I think all of us have a story to tell and a witness to give, but many of us are unable to see the marvelous deeds going on around us because we are so caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily life.

I was born in a small farming town in northwestern Ohio, and our church was called The Immaculate Conception. There was an Hispanic presence in the community, and I grew up with a love for Our Blessed Mother as the Immaculate Conception, as well as Our Lady of Guadalupe. However, I never really made the connection of Our Lady as Patroness of the Unborn and the pro-life movement, or the gift of life, until years later.

Fifteen years ago, I visited the Shrine of Our Lady of Guadalupe in Mexico City and had a spiritual conversion experience. It led to an ongoing process of healing and spiritual growth. I began to understand the mercy of God and wanted to learn all I could about the message of Divine Mercy as revealed to St. Maria Faustina. In her Diary, I found that she suffered the Passion on three occasions, in reparation for all the infants dying as a result of abortion.

Yet, it was the near-drowning of our son, John Paul, 10 years ago in 1996, that opened my eyes, and enabled me to realize the fragility and gift of life. Two years later, the ministry, Eucharistic Apostles of The Divine Mercy, officially became an apostolate of the Marians of the Immaculate Conception. As part of our overseas assistance to the poor, we have helped ship millions of Miraculous Medals to Catholics worldwide. In 1999, in what I thought was "icing on the cake" and our last child, my wife and I were blessed with the birth of Elizabeth Rose.

She was born on the Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception!

And four years later in 2003, on the Feast of the Incarnation of Our Lord, the late Holy Father Pope John Paul II, by his personal signature, imparted a special Apostolic Blessing to all Eucharistic Apostles and faithful worldwide who pray the Divine Mercy Chaplet for pro-life causes. That blessing happened almost miraculously, and its significance became clearer only recently.

It took another couple of dots for me to see the "big picture." The first was seven months ago when my nearly 50-year-old wife told me that she was pregnant. "Are you kidding?" was my first thought. All the anxieties of being a 52-year-old father of a newborn, the possibility of having a challenged child, the fear of a difficult and dangerous pregnancy for my wife, and all of the anxiety and fears of raising another child, especially during the teenage years, began to enter my mind.

But I found that the only antidote to soothe my soul was to turn it over to God and say, "Jesus, I Trust in You." Baby Clare Therese was born on Dec. 22. She is a healthy, beautiful baby girl — and a gift from God!

She is certainly not a bother, nuisance, or inconvenience. However, what if she had been deformed or challenged in other ways? Could I love her less? God has a much bigger plan than any of us realize. The birth of Clare and God's plan is a book waiting to be written, and I am thankful that I will see at least part of that book completed.

Now that Clare is all of two weeks old, the realization that she doesn't sleep at night, needs frequent diaper changes, and all that goes with a newborn, is starting to sink in. Not to mention, the reality of the extra financial costs, the worries that go with parenting a teenager, and all the sacrifices that are still there waiting to be played out; it is up to me as to how I will handle them. Hopefully, I will not face the days ahead with anger, frustration, and resentment, and will let trust in Jesus be the hallmark of living the message in my life.

By the way, regarding the sanctity of life, six months ago, another "connect the dots" event happened. We moved my elderly parents from a nursing home in Ohio to Florida. My dad is 91 years old and failing, and mom is 88 and has Alzheimer's disease. Both need and deserve tender loving care, and I try my best to visit frequently and assist as I can. And when I give my father his bath, I am reminded that my parents bathed me as a baby, and that now it is my turn to care for them.

These small works of mercy carry great merit if done out of love for God; but they come at a sacrifice, and it is not easy juggling the business, ministry, a large family, the newborn, and my parents and their issues. It is difficult, but I have had many memorable experiences with them that I will never forget.

Another "dot" was the recent approved miracle, needed for beatification of the Founder of the Marians, the Venerable Servant of God Fr. Stanislaus Papczynski. This event is tied into our work as Eucharistic Apostles in spreading the mercy of God and the gift of life, into my own experiences and understanding of Our Lady and God's love for me, and into how we are called to be children of life, vessels of mercy, and evangelists in proclaiming the existence of God.

The following, regarding his beatification, was taken from correspondence distributed by the Congregation after the miracle was approved:

The Venerable Servant of God, Fr. Stanislaus Papczynski, became known as an extraordinary preacher, writer, and confessor of souls. He preached and practiced love of God and neighbor. He took care of the physically and spiritually poor. He saw visions of suffering souls in purgatory and left as one of his legacies his love and concern for them.

On Dec. 16, the Holy Father Benedict XVI authorized the Congregation for the Causes of Saints to publish a decree recognizing the miracle attributed to the intercession of Fr. Papczynski, who founded the Marian Congregation in 1673.

The miracle that opens the way for the beatification concerns a pregnant woman. When she went to her doctor, the doctor declared that the fetus had died. Father Wojciech Skora, MIC, Postulator General, explained that the woman's godfather, when he learned of the child's death, had prayed that through Fr. Papczynski's intercession, the child would be saved. The godfather was convinced that Fr. Papczynski would intercede, since the godfather "himself had received very many graces by praying through his intercession," said Fr. Wojciech.

Three days after the fetus was declared dead, the woman returned to the doctor for a check-up and to have the dead fetus removed from her womb. "To his amazement, the doctor detected that the fetus was alive again," said Fr. Wojciech. The child who experienced this grace is about 5 years old now and is developing well. "There is no trace of how dramatic the beginning of his life was," said Fr. Wojciech.

"Our Father Founder was very much aware of the upheaval going on in the society of his time and the sorts of problems associated with it," said Br. Andrew, who is Vice Postulator for the Marian Causes of Canonization in the Marians' Stockbridge, Mass.-based Province.

What would the Marian Founder stress in his pastoral work with the poor? "He tried to convince them that human life, whether short or long, has consequences in eternity," wrote his biographer, Fr. Tadeusz Rogalewski, MIC. "He encouraged them to abandon sin and inspired them to the practice of the Christian virtues. He knew that lack of faith in the salvation of the soul is man's real tragedy."

Along with care for peasants in his day, Fr. Stanislaus seems to have a heart of concern for unborn children today, as evidenced by the approved miracle. "In light of this miracle," said Br. Andrew, "perhaps Father Founder is taking care of the most critical problem of our times - the need to uphold the sacredness of human life. There is a chance, perhaps, that he will become a pro-life patron in the Church."

What will Fr. Stanislaus's beatification mean for the Marians and the wider Church? "I do hope that it will mean a revival through Father Founder's spirit and ideals," Br. Andrew said. "It would seem that he still has much to do from heaven."

So, you see, connecting the dots was a moment of illumination for me in my soul, which again confirmed the existence of God and the gift and beauty of life. I feel a sadness and heaviness in my heart anytime people ask me, "Does God really exist?" I wish that they, too, could look at their life experiences and somehow be able to "connect the dots."

Faith is a gift from God. It involves believing in things that are unseen and unheard. Let us continue and persevere in faith and allow the Lord to do mighty deeds all over the land. Let it never be said, "And he did not do mighty works there, because of their unbelief" (Mk 13:58).

Take a minute today and think how God is using you in your life, and try to "connect the dots."

Dr. Bryan Thatcher, MD, is the founder and director of Eucharistic Apostles of The Divine Mercy (EADM). He travels the world promoting the Eucharist, prayer cenacles, and the message of Divine Mercy as a "way of life."

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Agnes Bukenya N. - EADM - Uganda - Aug 20, 2009

Congratulation Dr. Byran and your Wife for the precious gift of a baby at the age of 50. Claire as a mission to fulfill at why the Lord is going her to you. For your side its a gift from Merciful Jesus to show you that he is appreciating the work you are doing. He showing and teaching us - members of EADM to have Faith, mercy and love above all TRUST. Dr, Susan and Claire be covered in the Mercy of Jesus with Mary.
Jezu Ufam Tobie

Sr. Genevieve Osayame, EHJ - Feb 4, 2007

Congratulations to you and all the members of your family for the gift of this new born baby in your lives, the greatest and most priceless of gifts. A child is always a reminder of the loving providence of God. He who created Clare Therese and formed her in your (Susan)womb has her life planned from all eternity and she will never be in want. She is distinct and unique in her own right. Thank you for accepting to co-operate in bringing about the gift of Clare Therese to humanity. She is your 2006 Christmas gift!

Your reflection on the care of your parents is also quite interesting. It is often easier for many of us to show mercy to strangers than we would to members of our own household. May God bless you all.

I will forward the story to Bishop Martin Uzoukwu. I am sure he would like to have it reprinted (with your permission) in their Divine Mercy Magazine


Dear Dr Thatcher
At our Eucharistic Apostles meeting this week I showed our new members your video "I am a Voice crying for Mercy" and told them about the miracle of John Paul. Imagine my surprise when I looked at the EAODM website and saw that there has been another miracle in little Claire Therese. All our Eucharistic Apostles in South Australia send you their love, prayers and Best Wishes. We thank you with all our hearts for continuing to inspire us.
May our Merciful Saviour watch over and bless you and your family always.
Chris Slagter, Lay Facilitator

Aino Welch - Jan 20, 2007

From the North Pole (despite minus 12F at this moment) comes the warmest greetings! Congratulations to all of you for this new gift from GOD! He knows where to put His little ones to get a proper dose of His love thru devoted parents. Hope to see you up here one day soon. We miss Y'all!
In His Spirit, Aino

Carol - Jan 19, 2007

Bryan & Sue...What an awesome gift God has given you! You are truly blessed! I look forward to meeting baby Claire Therese soon! Inspiring article Bryan....keep up the great work...for God's honour and glory. Alofas to you both and the children from Samoa.

Alice - Jan 18, 2007

God is good! Congratulations.

Fr.Charles Abbud - Jan 18, 2007

Congratulation once again for the new baby Claire may she bring you joy.May the Lord protect her and make her as especial gift for the people of Southern Sudan.And I alos thank you for your greater love and concern for the poor in Southern Sudan,may God reword you and your family for the work of mercy you have been doing all over especially for Southern Sudan. I admire your God'given gifts in you.Thanks God bless you and keep little Clarie as gift for Africa in especial way for Southern Sudan.

Fr. Bala Udumala,MFA -Jan 17,2007 - Jan 17, 2007

God surprises us all and especially when you least expect it, to let us know that He is in control of things as the Alpha and Omegha. This is what exactly happened in your life. I praise God that more people learn the art of connecting the dots in their lives. A powerful story indeed and a great message for many.

Iris Rodriguez, OCDS - Jan 17, 2007

Congratulations to you both! God's mercy is always at work and may he continue to abundantly bless you and your family.

Colleen, South Africa - Jan 17, 2007

Congratulations! May your trust in Jesus be the blessing for little Claire Therese. She is God's gift to your family!

Rev. Fr. Joseph Kimu - Jan 17, 2007

Greetings from Rome where I am pursuing my doctoral thesis on The Theology of Suffering in the Teaching of John Paul II. I rejoice with you Brian and Susan. Your story is indeed a proof that God exists and "nothing is impossible to God" (Lk. 1:37). But more still your story is a testimony of your profound faith and total self-abandonment in our powerful God. "In God's plan nothing happens by chance" (John Paul II).

Nancy Jones - Jan 16, 2007 - Jan 16, 2007

Dear Bryan, Congratulations to you and your wife. I thank you for the continuing work you do for Our Lord and Our Lady. The article is a reminder to us all to continue to trust in Jesus, regardless of our very human tendancy to worry! God bless you all.Please give John Paul a hug from all of us in Honolulu!

Bridget - Jan 16, 2007

Dear Bryan,
Congratulations and thanks for sharing your fears and humaness....I can so relate but I often think I'm the only one. " Jesus I trust in you " can be applied no matter how we feel,for He never changes in His Power to help, to forgive, to transform all our moments, difficult and easy into "something beautiful and pleasing to God".
God bless all the Thatcher family!

Brother Leonard - Jan 16, 2007

Dr. Thatcher:
Congratulations to you and your wife! Is our God a God of surprises or what? This child could be destined for great things...we'll already have to make her an honorary "Marian" member!
God bless and keep up the great work!

Mary and Dave K. - Jan 16, 2007

Our warmest congratulations to Bryan and Sue ... you are such an inspiration to us ... a living testimony to being pro-life and showing mercy ... we have sent your thoughtful article to all our friends ... it's great!! We are thrilled about Clare Therese ... Blessings to you and your family each and every day! Know that you are very loved!!

Lisa Ladrido - Jan 16, 2007

Congratulations to both you and your wife for an awesome gift from Heaven, little Clare. "Connecting the Dots" is a wonderful reminder to all of us to stop, listen and feel the presence of God in our lives and to have the faith in Him always. Thank you Bryan for this great reminder.

Dave Came - Jan 16, 2007

Congratulations, Bryan and Sue, on the birth of your little girl! And it was a wonderful story, Bryan, about tuning into the big picture. You are an inspiration to us all! One final note: My wife and I are raising three teenagers right now, and it isn't easy. We need to keep connecting the dots!
God bless,

Fr. Joe - Jan 16, 2007

We can only see so much of God's plan at a time, while He sees the big picture. We must walk by faith not by sight! Mary's Fiat should be the model for our trust - Let it be done to me according to your word! Praise God for little Clare!

marsha anne and siaosi - Jan 16, 2007

God Bless you all and little baby Clare Therese. A beautiful article. indeed!
I was restless last night, pondering things with anxiety. This was article was timely ---sometimes we wander away from "JESUS I TRUST IN YOU!" O Lord, please help US to connect the dots!!

Ed Foster Jr. - Jan 16, 2007

Congratulations Brian and Sue " May God continue to shower His blessings upon you and your family as you have so shared His goodness and mercy with so many others.

Ana Paula Rodrigues - Jan 16, 2007

She is beautifull and we can see how God is wonderfull..
Now, you have a new life in your hands..
God bless Clare and every baby that has the chance to be born .
I see Clare working for Jesus as their parents , and being a prolife in the world, spreading the message of Divine Mercy.
God Bless you,
Ana- EADM from Rio de Janeiro

Bill Thatcher - Jan 16, 2007

A very hard hitting article and very
timely and opportune-makes one realize
we can handle all that is thrown at us,
and makesone do needed soul searching
Good job Brother

Therese Rosario - Jan 15, 2007

Congratulations Brian and Susan on the birth of little Claire Therese. I am sure she will be of great joy to you all your lives...I admire your courage and faith in God. God Bless

Anne-Marie - Jan 15, 2007

From Nothwest Ohio, Columbus Grove, St Anthony of Padua to be precise, congratulations on your new baby girl. God must have great plans for little Clare Therese.
In our parish, Judy and have given Adult classes for ten years now. This year is on Divine Mercy, using your shows on EWTN, Cenecale of Divine Mercy, and the classes downloaded from the web site. Our classes are very well attented. Tonight our class is on "TRUST". How about that? :)
(By the way, back in 94, our 2nd year of Adult Ministry Formation had our retreat in your childhood church.) Anne-Marie

Marie-Nurses and Doctors for Divine Mercy - Jan 15, 2007

Congratulations Brian and Susan...May this precious gift of Claire bring you unending joy in the love of life and for all the work you do for the good Lord and Our Lady.