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What I Know About Suicide

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By Jay Hastings (Jan 30, 2007)
Many people have known someone who, despairing of hope, has committed suicide.

For them, a thousand questions and regrets arise when such a tragedy occurs. How could they have done it? I should have done more for them.

Most importantly, they may wonder if the person is in heaven or hell?

I have this to say about that: We should never judge a soul in any circumstance, even someone who commits suicide. That is for God alone to judge. And we can trust that He gives a soul every opportunity to choose Him.

Saint Faustina knew firsthand the torments of suicide. She writes in her Diary:

Once, I took upon myself a terrible temptation which one of our students in the house at Warsaw was going through. It was the temptation of suicide. For seven days I suffered; and after the seven days Jesus granted her the grace which was being asked, and then my suffering also ceased. It was a great suffering. I often take upon myself the torments of our students. Jesus permits me to do this, and so do my confessors (192).

Personally, I know of a man who committed suicide. He was a role model and mentor to many. He was a loving father, grandfather, and family man. He had been through several major operations in the course of a few months. He was on painkillers and anti-depressants, as a result of all the surgeries he had to endure. Something obviously went terribly wrong. I don't know what. What a loss.

What I do know is that our Divine Mercy prayer group was praying the Chaplet of The Divine Mercy for him at the hour he died. (Our group insures the Chaplet of The Divine Mercy is being prayed 24 hours a day. Because of the surgeries he was undergoing, this man who committed suicide happened to be listed in our Divine Mercy Prayer Journal, which contains the names of the people for whom we pray.)

And what I also know is that such praying is powerful.

Jesus said to St. Faustina:

Pray as much as you can for the dying. By your entreaties, obtain for them trust in My mercy, because they have most need of trust, and have it the least. Be assured that the grace of eternal salvation for certain souls in their final moment depends on your prayer. You know the whole abyss of My mercy, so draw upon it for yourself and especially for poor sinners. Sooner would heaven and earth turn into nothingness than would My mercy not embrace a trusting soul (Diary, 1777).

Obviously, when someone commits suicide, they leave a lot of confusion about their death. I recall a passage in the Diary when our Lord asked St. Faustina to help Him save a soul that was in despair:

Today, the Lord came to me and said, "My daughter, help Me to save souls. You will go to a dying sinner, and you will continue to recite the chaplet, and in this way you will obtain for him trust in My mercy, for he is already in despair."

Suddenly, I found myself in a strange cottage where an elderly man was dying amidst great torments. All about the bed was a multitude of demons and the family, who were crying. When I began to pray, the spirits of darkness fled, with hissing and threats directed at me. The soul became calm and, filled with trust, rested in the Lord. At the same moment, I found myself again in my own room. How this happens ... I do not know. (1797-98)

And then there are these comments of St. Faustina:

I often communicate with persons who are dying and obtain the divine mercy for them. Oh, how great is the goodness of God, greater than we can understand. There are moments and there are mysteries of the divine mercy over which the heavens are astounded. Let our judgment of souls cease, for God's mercy upon them is extraordinary (Diary, 1684).

I often attend upon the dying and through entreaties obtain for them trust in God's mercy, and I implore God for an abundance of divine grace, which is always victorious. God's mercy sometimes touches the sinner at the last moment in a wondrous and mysterious way. Outwardly, it seems as if everything were lost, but it is not so. The soul, illumined by a ray of God's powerful final grace, turns to God in the last moment with such a power of love that, in an instant, it receives from God forgiveness of sin and punishment, while outwardly it shows no sign either of repentance or of contrition, because souls [at that stage] no longer react to external things. Oh, how beyond comprehension is God's mercy! But - horror - there are also souls who voluntarily and consciously reject and scorn this grace! Although a soul is at the point of death, the merciful God gives the soul that interior vivid moment, so that if the soul is willing, it has the possibility of returning to God. But sometimes, the obduracy in souls is so great that consciously they choose hell; they make useless all the prayers that other souls offer to God for them and even the efforts of God Himself... (1698).

Again, we should never judge a soul in any circumstance. And we should never despair of God's mercy; it is unfathomable. Knowing that should bring comfort and peace to everyone who has to endure this situation.

Jay Hastings, of Bartlett, Tenn., is the founder of a growing group of Divine Mercy devotees who ensures that the Chaplet of The Divine Mercy is being prayed every hour of the day. The 24-Hour Chaplet members now consist of more than 500 people from across the United States, as well as from Mexico, Belize (Central America), Costa Rica, Canada, Philippines, Bolivia, India, Iraq, Australia, Kuwait, United Arab Emirates, Japan, and Tanzania, who are assigned an hour each day in which to pray. They pray for three things: the promotion of the Divine Mercy devotion; the sick and dying in the hour that you pray; and people about to commit mortal sin. To join the 24-Hour Chaplet, contact Jay via e-mail, [email protected] or via phone, 901-438-7772.

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Patricia - Aug 19, 2019

I have been taking on mental spiritual pain despair my heart hurts. I’m so exhausted in fighting the temptation of suicide. I have been a victim of child sexual physical abuse. I have then suffered clergy religious abuse as a religious then many traumatic events. I can’t pray without tears I’m having suicidal homicidal thoughts. I can’t go to Holy mass myself. I live in fear despair and sorrow I want it to end. I have illnesses to. I’m to tired to fight anymore.

My Angel - Nov 20, 2018

My heart is heavy, my beautiful little girl who is 12, I found out yesterday that my baby is cutting herself! Why? Why? Why?? I cried, my husband was hurt. How could our daughter who is sooooooooo loved, has so many people in her corner, do this to herself???? I took her phone to find answers, I looked and looked, and I find out my baby, my princess is so alone!! She wants to end her life over what?? She knows nothing of what life is yet! I prayed, I cried, I asked God please help us through this dark time!!!! Why us??? Why her??? I ask that you keep my baby in your prayers as I will for all others who are dealing with this same situation! God is good! ❤️

Selene - Aug 28, 2018

Let the love of God fill your heart and mind. Everything material in this world including the body is only temporary. Our experiences and memories are passing fast. We all carry crosses in many different ways and times in our lives. Learning to carry them with love is our challenge in this life, but also our salvation. I had a very difficult childhood and from there I lived in darkness for so long. Until I started to pray and discovered the treasure of the Catholic Church. My life is not perfect as no one is in here. But everyday is an opportunity for me to grow spiritually and learn more about God. Our sufferings, disappointments and more can do so
much more for others. As we speak there are children being abused, there may be women being beaten, or people dying alone across the world or worse yet, people in total despair in purgatory. We can dedicate our fasting, our illnesses and our prayers to them. However we cannot do this with an empty heart. We need the light and love of God in us in order to give. In giving, we’ll be receiving many graces to see and feel God in and around us. God bless you all.

Prayerful warrior - Aug 24, 2018

I am praying for you. I understand how bad depression can feel, I am a suicide survivor, I will pray for your survival with all my heart

Desperate - Aug 22, 2018

Plz pray for me.... I want to die way more than live. I don't want to live at all. But can't die without doing it myself. 50 years of suffereing bad depression from so much loss and abuse. It never would end until now I have nothing left here that I can survive for. I love my sons and the joy they gave me. But I'm terminal and that would be harder for them... Gid please forgive me, please let me still know You!!! I do love u and sweet Mother Mary. I can't take it . I'm confused that I am in this dark place. I never thot I would do this at my worst times. But I never was as low as I am now. Pray for me if it all goes through... I never have known happiness or peace , and by doing this, I am so scared I never will. I don't want to be separate from Your love. I pray I open my eyes and see You!!!!

Robert Williams - Jul 9, 2018

Dear Robert,

I will pray for you. I am sorry you are suffering.

Save My Soul - Apr 24, 2018

I have ruined my life at a fairly young age. I love the Lord Jesus Christ with all my heart and trust in his word, but I believe the next 60 years of my life will be filled with torment and depressing memories. I pray to God daily and would much rather die than live out this depressing life which sadly may leave my soul to burn in hell as most people would tell me. I am only a human and I don’t think I will be able to do this. I don’t see how it’s possible at all and I fear of what is to come daily. Please pray for me and my situation. May God have mercy on all our souls that have been led to this page! My Name is Robert Williams and I believe I will soon commit suicide!

Joanna - Aug 20, 2017

My boyfriend had struggled w a alter personality from what's believed to have been abuse. Denied the help he seemed he was sent home w out his medications to committee suicide after a fun filled day at the lake. I have lost my home and everything to protect him and help him. This I thank God for everyday he passed knowing I where no one else gave up all for his love. I do know it was not enough to stop the suicide. I played in bed woke 38 min later to him gone. I tried to save him he was gone. I don't understand I know that I pray often and I have q my chatloic friends and family about the possibility of hell. He was a wonderful person captured by DEMONS. I just know he was so hurt inside. Please know on July 2 2017 a man took the life that he felt DEMONS were taking over. Please pray for peace with in his passing.

John - Aug 11, 2016

My 17 year old daughter left notes all over our house, last Monday, to say Goodbye to us all.

God blessed us in that he allowed one of her friends find the notes before she had done any harm to herself.

We took her to the hospital and I never, ever in my life saw the pure rage in my beloved child's face. To me it looked like she was possessed.

Since then we have discovered that there is drug/substance abuse involved .

The hospital released her to our care recommending / arranging counselling.

We have tried and she has told us that there is no way that she will attend counselling. I can see that she is very ashamed at what happened and, in any case, hates being the centre of attention. I think that her self-confidence / self-esteem is low.

This is the second attempt that we are aware of but the, in her letters, declares it to be her third attempt.

She is deeply, deeply loved and valued - we would never recover from her loss ( God Forbid ).

Please, please, please pray the chaplet for her to recognize that there is hope and that she begins to enagage with us, counselling etc.

Jesus, I trust in you!

SufferingMystic - May 8, 2014

I have been submerged in a sea of suffering after devoting my life to God. I know I should be thankful and feel blessed to be granted the gift of mystical unions, but the pain is so horrific it is unbearable.

I am to remain devout all the while during God's test, but it is too big a cross to bear. There is no cure for the conditions God gave me, no peace or comfort, no medications, and, worst of all, it won't kill me. I may live with it for another 60 years.

In my mystical unions I am told that this suffering is part of it, that my prayers for mercy cannot be answered, that my extreme faith and devotion to serve God has been granted but in a way I did not expect.

I am afraid that suicide or euthanasia would be met with more suffering in the afterlife. Is there no end to it for me? I need compassion from God to let me die peacefully soon and be free of suffering here or there. How can I be granted this mercy if I resort to euthanasia/suicide? I'm afraid it will not end because mystics are rare cases, and people who did not expect to be silent martyrs or victim souls are rarer still. I implore you to pray for my suffering to end somehow, either by a miracle in this lifetime, by death, by being granted mercy if I must take my life. I pray God forgives me for my inability to take this horrific daily burden, but I am too weak and suicidal all the time.

Please pray for me!

needhelp - Apr 4, 2014

Please pray for me as I'm thinking seriously of committing suicide. My life is too much pain and I've made too many bad choices and there's no way to undo them. I have an incurable disease. I don't want to hurt anyone but I'm just in too much pain and I can't go on like this. Please pray that God accepts me and does not reject me I am sorry and I don't want to commit suicide but I just can't take the pain and regret anymore.

Moderator - Feb 16, 2010

Dear "deep black,"
You ask, what is the point of Christ being with us in our sufferings? It seems the point is that, no matter how bad it gets, we're not alone. The One who suffered the horror of crucifixion did so out of love for us (as individuals), and He IS with us in our sufferings. Please know that I am praying for you too.

deep black - Feb 15, 2010

i have this sickness called depression. after i lost my job in a major medical establishment (where i spent 8 happy months), i am currently working at a dead-end job. it is a dead-end job because i do not even enjoy the benefits of my salary. i try t reach out to my co workers but they think that i am too weird and they feel awkward, they said. i am just looking for someone who could probably reach out to me too. evn in this dead-end job i try to do my best, but there are complaints that i miss " a few litte important things". i am so frustrated because i am trying all my best to do my job well here, but my co-workers and supervisors arent satisfied. i tell my parents my dilemma, but it all boils down to them not understanding because they are not nurses, so they don't understand what i am going through. i am so sick and tired of everything. when i go to church, i can't help noticing the families of other nurses enjoying themselves in church, singing, laughing, meeting up after the Mass has been said. I can't help looking at them with envy. When will i be happy and content just like them? when will th end of my calvary be?
once i looked up on the web "making sense out of suffering" by peter kreeft. he said, that whatever our private hells may be, christ himself descends into those hells to be with us. he may not deliver us from these hells but he is here with us. what's the use? though it is certainly touching that christ is with us in all our adversities, whats the use if he's not gonna do anything to help? what's the use of his being there then?
last night i screamed at him in my mind: until when would you nail me to the cross with you? i don't want to be here! all i ask of you is to help me make my life a little brighter! but you choose to be here amid tears, darkness and sorrow! are you not God, arent you supposed to have helped all those people who are terminally ill during your time? then why not help me? God, what is your point?
though i try so very hard to keep things straight, i keep having suicidal thought. i feel so hopeless. God, for me, has left me alone and i am broken hearted. please help me. if this is the way to sainthood, i'd rather not be a saint.

Don - Nov 28, 2007

While listening to the radio yesterday am I heard about the death of the NFL football player lying in a coma. So, I knelt down and prayed The Divne Mercy Chaplet for his soul. Pray always.

Moderator - Oct 4, 2007

You and your loved ones are all in my prayers. If you would like the Marian Helper prayer team to pray as well, please call the prayer-line at (800) 804-3823.

God bless,

RIP Simon Pacheco 10/3/07 - Oct 4, 2007

Siomon is 12 years old and had committed suicide the other night he was a very good friend with my son. I only want Simon to Rest in Peace and I am asking for your prayers to help him to his destination. Love and Prayers Simon we all love you and will be missing you...Until we meet again you will remain in our hearts forever. All your friends and family

D. Fathe - Aug 22, 2007

My nephew died of a drug overdose (Fentanyl) on Dec. 24, 2005. It was never clear if it was suicide or an accident. I can now take comfort in knowing that if God offered him mercy at his last moment that he would have willingly accepted it. He made a comment several days before he passed away about "needing to get right with God before he died". Thank you so much for this article, I'm finally at peace with this tragedy.

Robbie Biggs - Feb 7, 2007

My mother was suicidal even before she asked for morphine, which causes depression. I sent her an article on The Divine Mercy....but, please, pray for her and me. God Bless You.